It’s not easy being a writer – anyone who does it will tell you so. Personally I love filling my head with my characters and the things they get up too, but there are annoying things that have to be done every day. The washing. Planning meals. Grocery shopping – lol, how I hate grocery shopping.
And then there are the visitors. Like many of you who write for a living I have my own small office/cabin at home, that is purely my space, and where I spend most of my day. The problem I have is that because I am technically at home, many people think that it is okay to just drop in, unannounced and then proceed to fill my day. While I love my family and friends, when my head is in the middle of sex scene, or the latest run of dialogue between my two MCs, it is really hard to stay focused on a gorgeous chubby baby, or the latest gossip that is doing the rounds.
Obviously I didn’t keep my distraction as hidden as I thought I had because towards the end of last year some of my nearest and dearest let it be known that they thought I was becoming a bit of an introvert – heaven forbid, a hermit. Now in my head a hermit is some bearded long haired man, in dirty clothes who lives in a cave. I get my nails done regularly, my hair cut once every six weeks and I shower every day! That is not the life of a hermit.
But I did see where my well meaning friends and family were coming from and this year I am planning to have a bit more of a work/life balance. I will do something other than write, and dream and… yes, I will. I am not sure what yet, but I am going to do something. I have also made it my mission to be more accepting when people come to visit. It’s nice that they think of me, and want to spend time with me, and…well, that’s what the night time hours are for – I can always write then 🙂
I love my life as a writer – I love interacting with my readers online, I love the storylines that crowd my brain. I love just pouring the lives of my characters out onto the page and seeing them come to life. But just as I give my characters life, I have to have a life of my own as well and this year I am going to endeavour to do just that.
So how do you cope with the juggle between writing and your real life? Is it time for you to be making some changes too, or have you got the perfect system you would be happy to share with me? Let me know 🙂